Andy came to me because he was having sexual
problems with his wife; he felt nettled by her touch,
especially while receiving oral sex. He could give her
oral sex, but when she touched him, his body would tense up from
sensory overload. I arranged for a series of acupressure sessions, both
singly with Andy and jointly with his wife, to show them various
points and techniques for relaxing his body.
After two months, Andy told me that the acupressure techniques
had helped to alleviate the anxiety he felt about oral sex and being
touched during intercourse. He said that his sexual responsiveness
was dramatically improved when his wife applied acupressure to his
back before and during lovemaking. His progress did not occur
overnight, he said, but step by step, as he learned to trust his own
body and let go of inner conflicts and performance pressures.
The deep pleasure you can give your partner through oral sex can
be extremely erotic and sensual. This ecstatic experience can also
become overwhelming. For people like Andy, oral sex can lead to
sensory overload and be more painful than pleasurable. This can
cause a person to tense against the highly charged sensorial stimu
lation. Acupressure can neurologically stabilize this hypersensitivity.
Without diminishing the erotic sensations, it balances the body's
nervous system and enables sexual energy to flow.
Points to Use During Oral Sex
Since oral sex can be intensely tantalizing and sexually delightful,
many people are interested in enhancing it without drugs or alcohol.
Fortunately, several points in the pelvis, buttocks, and inner thighs
cultivate greater sexual awareness and are natural places to hold
during oral sex. These points increase the circulation of blood and
energy into the pelvis and genitals. As the points release, greater
amounts engorge the area.
As you hold the following points during oral sex, your finger
pressure creates a grounding cord for your partner to receive greater
amounts of pure pleasure. Contact with these points stabilizes the
body and gives your lover a sense of security and assurance. The
firmness and strength of holding the points balances the tantalizing
movements of oral sex.
An oral sex routine using all of the following points would be too
lengthy and laborious to practice with spontaneity. Instead, try
stimulating a few of these points each time you have oral sex. Return
to the points that your partner enjoys most.
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Bubbling Spring (K1)
Location: On the center of the sole of the foot, at the base of the ball
of the foot, between the two pads.
Benefits: This is a powerful point to hold with your thumbs during
oral sex when your partner is on his or her back, legs apart with
knees bent. Holding it also relieves male and female reproductive
system problems such as hot flashes, infertility, scrotal pain, and
Applications for Oral Sex: With your partner lying on his or her
back with knees bent and feet on the floor, kneel between his or her
legs. You may find it more comfortable to place a pillow between
your heels and buttocks. Bring your partner's knees up toward his or
her chest and slide your hands down to the feet. Place the palms of
your hands on the outsides of the feet, using your thumbs to press K 1
on the center of the sole of the foot. Use gentle-to-firm pressure,
depending upon your partner's sensitivity at this point. Slowly bring
your head down toward the genitals to give your lover a creative
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